There are millions of fish in the Internet sea,
but to determine whether to reel them in, or simply cut bait. If
you are single and looking for someone, whether that is an email
friend, a casual relationship or something serious, meeting
people online can be very rewarding. Online dating web sites
offer a fun, exciting and secure environment for interacting and
meeting with other single people online. If you decide to take
that all important step of meeting someone in real life,
remember, common sense is by far your best safety tool.
These tips will help you navigate the online
personals terrain safely, so that with just a few clicks of your
mouse and some common sense tips, you’ll find exactly what you
are looking for:
Online Dating Tip #1 – Stay
Positive and Pace Yourself!
When e-mailing and IM-ing (Instant Messaging)
with others, be positive, upbeat and honest. Just like when
you’re meeting people for the first time in "real life," it’s
never a good idea to bombard someone with the unadulterated
story of your life complete with every road bump and detour.
Keep the honesty, but don’t overwhelm your online friend with
too much information too soon. Pace yourself!
Online Dating Tip #2 – Photos are
Pictures say a thousand words. Include one!
Profiles that include photos get many more responses than
Online Dating Tip #3 – Demonstrate
Why You’re Unique
Round out your profile with interesting
information that highlights your unique personality, background
and interests. Everyone enjoys walks on the beach and snuggling
up by the fireplace…. so go beyond the ordinary and offer up
detail on authors you’re inspired by, places you’ve visited or
dreamed about seeing, etc. Go beyond the ordinary and you’ll
reap the rewards!
Online Dating Tip #4 – Meet People
at Your Own Pace
Don’t feel pressured to meet face to face before
you’re ready. Men usually do better when they let women control
the pace of the online relationship, since a woman may need a
little more time to feel safe. Men would do well to let women
know they are interested in meeting face-to-face, but then to
step back and let the woman say when.
Online Dating Tip #5 – Close the
After you meet someone that you like, cinch a
second meeting after the date, by looking directly into his or
her eyes and saying, "I had a really great time with you, it was
a lot of fun."
Online Dating Tip #6 – Safety
Be sure to assume an anonymous handle, i.e.,
member ID or user name, so that your privacy is assured. Never
sign up with an online personals company that doesn’t provide
anonymous email services!
Other safety tips include:
Use an e-mail address or cell
phone number as an initial means of contact. Do not give out
your home phone number.
If you're planning on meeting
someone, tell at least two people where you're going, the
person's name, their general description, and your expected
Always meet someone in a
neutral location. Never have them come to your home or place
of work to pick you up.
Always meet someone in a
public place, such as a restaurant, or a movie theatre.
Always be aware of the
personal information you're revealing to a date.
Use common sense. If you get a
bad "vibe" maybe it's time to end the date.
Bottom Line: Forget about acting cool, and think
about acting real. The dates (and maybe even true love) will