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Prepare Messiah's Bride: Rocks and Relationships
Thu, 14 Jun 2018 11:34:41 -0500
Coming out of institutional churches has left many people in a quandary about how to find fellowship.Despite good intentions to follow the Word of the God of Israel--Messianic or Hebrew Roots groups--many such fellowships have succumbed to strife and division. This article identifies what the author believes to be a core issue and begins the process to address and restore individual and fellowship relationships between people, faith communities and the God of Israel.
Those Precious Moments Missed Are Lost
Sat, 14 Apr 2018 14:09:35 -0500
Having made the choice to attend a work function and miss spending time with my five-year-old son it was easy to reconcile the matter - there are plenty of those times. Trouble is, there are not plenty of those times. He is already five years old. In a reflective moment we're given to the sadness that he is no longer two or three, or even a baby.
Are You In A Relationship With Someone Who Is More Like Your Son/Daughter?
Mon, 16 Jul 2018 07:28:48 -0500
The other day I was thinking about how there were times when I had come across couples who appeared to be out of balance. When this was the case, it was as though it was more like a parent-child relationship and not an adult to adult relationship.
Relationships: Can The Fear Of Being Seen Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Unavailable?
Fri, 17 Aug 2018 11:04:56 -0500
There are a number of things that can stop one from being able to have a fulfilling relationship, and ending up with someone who is unavailable will be one of the things that will stop them from being able to fulfil this need. When this takes place, they can find it hard to understand how this has happened.
Free Soul Mate Reading Review
Thu, 07 Jun 2018 08:50:43 -0500
The free soul mate reading is a foolproof magical program that helps unravel your true romance life in a matter of hours. It relies on the power of 3 tarot love cards to identify the little-known secrets of your past, current, and future romance life. It's all you need if your heart has been reduced to a dustbin due to frequent heartbreaks and disappointments. It reveals all you need to know about your future and empowers you to easily identify your 'Mr. Right'. It gives detailed instructions for finding and keeping a soul mate. With this program, your heart will never be used as a playground by fake boyfriends who are only after using you for sexual benefits. It will enlighten you enabling you to understand how to read your soul mate's heart and dedicate true love to keep them forever.
Mon, 28 May 2018 19:51:14 -0500
This is one of those vulnerable articles. It's hoped that as I share about my/our weaknesses you too will be encouraged to own and accept your weaknesses, defeating any perfectionistic stride that tends to disrupt and even destroy relationships.
Relationships: Why Are Some Men Attracted To Women Who Need To Be Saved?
Fri, 02 Mar 2018 07:04:11 -0600
If a man was to find out that a woman is unable to handle life and needs other people to prop her up, he could soon come to the conclusion that it would be better for him to move on. It will be only too clear that being with a woman like this is going to be more trouble than it's worth.
Want Control? Then Take Your Responsibility
Mon, 23 Jul 2018 11:49:57 -0500
What I write about below is personal psychology 101. Most people in life want control over their life. Indeed, that's a huge understatement. We all want more control over life and our lives than we can seize. But this want of control, when needing control becomes an idol, creates situations where, most often, we surrender control. Here's how that works.
Relationships: Why Are Some Men Only Interested In Women Who Need To Be Saved?
Fri, 17 Aug 2018 10:41:38 -0500
When a man and a woman are together, and they are both in touch with their power, there will be no need for one of them to try to rescue the other. They will both have boundaries and they won't be carrying too much baggage.
Relationships: Why Do Some People Have The Need To Be Needed'?
Sat, 28 Jul 2018 18:43:14 -0500
While there are people who are not interested in trying to rescue or save other people, there are others who are. As a result of this, some people will be repelled by these kinds of people and some will be drawn to them like bees to a honey pot.
Relationships: Do Some People's Childhood Set Them Up To Feel Safe With Abuse?
Mon, 26 Mar 2018 07:08:09 -0500
While there are people in the world who are in healthy relationships, there are others who aren't. As a result of this, some people are going to be with people who have a negative effect on them.
Relationships: Why Do Some People Focus On Other People's Problems?
Sun, 29 Jul 2018 16:19:40 -0500
Even though one will have their own life to lead while they are on this planet, it doesn't mean that they will actually have their own life. Instead, they could end up spending most of their tine focusing on other people's problems.
The Peace You Seek in a Warring World
Sat, 14 Jul 2018 10:19:10 -0500
Spend any time watching social media and you soon discover that the world seems to be going crazy. There are sides in everything. Politics has its left and right. Church has its fundamentals and liberals. There are feminists and misogynists. Pro-lifers and those for pro-choice. Those for and against same-sex marriage. People who believe in euthanasia and those who don't. This article is nothing about any of these issues.
Who's Your Valentine?
Mon, 05 Feb 2018 20:39:09 -0600
As we approach February 14th it is time to think about relationships and their meaning. Ponder the following: 1. Most people spend more time shopping for a new vehicle than finding a partner.
Relationships: Why Do Some People Stay In Touch With Their Ex?
Sat, 27 Jan 2018 07:49:40 -0600
If one's relationship has just come to an end, they could decide to cut their ties and to move on with their life. As a result of this, they are not going to want to stay in touch with their ex.
How Much Control Do You Need?
Sun, 15 Jul 2018 17:49:06 -0500
The fact is we are in bondage to anything we have to control, whether it is people, the possessions we have, the circumstances of our lives, and especially how events we are involved in play out. Whatever we have to control controls us, and we're tempted to use what controls us, to control others.
The Dynamics of Love and Control in Relationships
Sat, 28 Jul 2018 18:44:13 -0500
For some, in some situations, love is neither the desire nor do we have its agency. Love's not so easy. Situations like these we feel controlled or we act out of a need to have control. Relationship in this way is about taking and demanding and not giving or letting go. No matter what we try to do, the person we want to love will not receive that love. Whatever we give doesn't seem to be enough or even the right thing; it isn't perceived as loving.
Opinion Is a Privilege, Not a Right
Sat, 31 Mar 2018 09:50:19 -0500
One week teaches us much if we care to reflect and observe. God had this sort of conversation with me recently: "Watch and learn about how your opinion polarises or changes - see how fickle it is - watch and learn about others' opinions - watch and learn, thirdly, about the ruin opinion brings."
Single or Otherwise Segregated on Valentine's Day
Wed, 14 Feb 2018 06:57:35 -0600
I don't expect everyone to agree with me, but I see Valentine's Day like Mother's and Father's Days. It is a divisive day. I've come to dislike these days because it segregates the have nots from the haves.
Couples Who 'Chore' Together, Generally Stay Together
Tue, 12 Jun 2018 09:46:29 -0500
Do you and your partner do chores together? If not, this article might be very helpful to you.
Making Sense of the Attitude of Forgiveness
Sun, 08 Jul 2018 08:53:49 -0500
If I'm a student of grief, I'm also a student of conflict, and whilst understanding of grief leads to acceptance, understanding of conflict leads to forgiveness. This is the premise: When you forgive you let go of what you cannot control.
What Makes You Feel Worthy and Loveable?
Tue, 05 Jun 2018 05:41:56 -0500
Take a moment to think about this: What do you believe makes you feel worthy and lovable? Do you believe you are worthy when you receive others' approval? Do you believe that you will feel worthy when you lose weight or look a certain way?
She Just Wants to Be Heard
Tue, 08 May 2018 11:28:10 -0500
It happens so frequently when I do couples counselling. It's what I do often say, whether directly or indirectly. It's directed to him. It's the temptation to say, 'She just wants to be heard.' And every now and then I hear myself want to say it to her, too, 'He just wants to be heard.' The truth is we all want to be heard, and if we can't do the hearing we have no right to be heard.
Do You End Up With People Who Are You Emotionally Unavailable?
Sat, 30 Jun 2018 19:16:48 -0500
I was thinking the other day about how common it is for people to end up in a relationship with someone who is not available. This is something that usually causes them to experience a lot of pain.
Putting People On A Pedestal Stops Us From Growing
Sun, 03 Jun 2018 17:03:39 -0500
I was thinking the other day about how much of an obsession there is with celebrities in today's world. Actors, sports stars, singers, and even people who have been on reality TV are often seen as gods/goddesses.
Friendliness for Fighting and Freedom
Fri, 09 Mar 2018 14:41:41 -0600
Friendliness is a wisdom that wins every fight. It is impossible to fight someone who insists on being friendly. It refuses temptation to hurt, continuing to hope for the best in the other person and the relationship.
The Loneliness Epidemic
Tue, 26 Jun 2018 07:42:52 -0500
Are you lonely? Do you believe you just need to learn to live with this?
That Day a Drunk Homeless Man Changed My Life
Mon, 07 May 2018 14:52:55 -0500
During the season of life where my life seemed interrupted, and I entered a time of recovery that I could neither foresee nor appreciate at the time, a random event occurred that changed my life. I was walking a lot in those days. It was how I often connected with God; even as He had stripped me back where my life circumstance serially broke me.
Loneliness Makes Two
Sun, 11 Feb 2018 19:24:25 -0600
THEY say that it is what we lack that compels us to appreciate and go after our purpose. Of course, that's it. Wherever we're fulfilled there is no need to search a thing out.
You Have Daddy Issues
Sat, 07 Jul 2018 10:50:31 -0500
I was thinking the other day about how, over the years, I had heard a number of people say that certain women had "daddy issues". This was something that was said if a woman blamed all men for everything and hated men, or even if she had the tendency to go for older men.
Relationships: Why Do Some Women Alternate Between 'Bad Boys' And 'Nice Guys'?
Tue, 30 Jan 2018 20:18:45 -0600
While there are plenty of women who are only drawn to men who are kind and respectful, for instance, there are also plenty of women who aren't. As a result of this, their relationships with men are going to be radically different.
When Life's Trials and Tribulations Are Overwhelming Your Well-Being, Take Heart
Mon, 12 Mar 2018 07:21:57 -0500
A rainy Sunday morning in normally sunny California, a portend of something undesirable and unwelcome was inevitably coming closer to disturb my quietude. I launched my desktop computer to see what I had missed overnight. Soon I wished I had not made that effort so early in my day.I opened and began reading an email straight from the bowels of hell, a missive of deceit and hate, news of the worst possible kind at the worst possible moment for me right now. My split-second reaction was a gripping sense of panic as a wave of anxiety swept over me like the frigid, foretelling wind from the darkest reaches of Antarctica. My vision blurred momentarily, and my head bowed towards the ground as if I might lose consciousness. I opened and began reading an email straight from the bowels of hell, a missive of deceit and hate, news of the worst possible kind at the worst possible moment for me right now. My split-second reaction was a gripping sense of panic as a wave of as a wave of anxiety swept over me like the frigid, foretelling wind from the darkest reaches of Antarctica.
Staying Present IN the Awkward Moment - True Story
Sun, 29 Apr 2018 17:06:46 -0500
Have you ever been to one of those eatery birthday parties? The ones where they offer free beverages and eats, there's live music, etc. I went to one recently. It was great. I arrived there with a sense of expectancy.
The Key to Being an Encourager
Mon, 07 May 2018 07:09:36 -0500
In commending a friend about their ability to encourage, their capacity for encouragement, they explained with profound simplicity the wherewithal: 'I'm learning to speak promptly when God leads and not just think good things about people.' See the profundity in this statement?
Power, Privilege and Privation
Tue, 03 Jul 2018 11:06:40 -0500
We all have our childhood experiences, but for many forgotten ones, childhood trauma has left such an indelible mark on their psyches that they bear those marks of abuse everywhere they go, in everything they think, feeling through a heart that was damaged so long ago. The world is a place of power for the few, privilege for the many, and privation for those lost ones society seems to care so little about.
You CAN Learn To Make Yourself Feel Safe
Mon, 16 Jul 2018 21:22:31 -0500
Growing up, many of us didn't feel at all safe in our households. Many of us had parents or other caregivers who were physically, emotionally, and/or sexually abusive or neglectful. We had to find ways to manage this lack of safety, so we learned to numb out, eat or use other substances, be good, be bad or try to be perfect, or project the fear on something other than our parents, because acknowledging that it was our parents causing our fear caused more fear.
Relationships: Do Some Men's Childhood's Set Them Up To Develop A Saviour Complex?
Thu, 15 Feb 2018 06:59:22 -0600
While there are some men who offer their assistance when it is needed, there are others who have a different approach. Here, it is not going to be enough for a man to offer their hand from time to time, they will need to take things further.
Relationships: Can Someone's Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Them To Expect Too Much From Others?
Fri, 26 Jan 2018 07:03:08 -0600
Before one gets into a relationship, they can have a rough idea about the kind of person who they want to be with. Along with this, there can be what they expect to receive when they are with them.
There Is A Reason Why We Look To One Person To Meet All Of Our Needs
Tue, 27 Feb 2018 06:55:50 -0600
A little while ago, I wrote about when my father worked with a healer called, Errol Campbell, and after I wrote this article, I ended up sharing it with him. Yet, before I wrote this article, I wasn't sure if I would have enough content within me to write an article about this moment.
Feed Others, Eat Well Yourself
Thu, 07 Jun 2018 22:08:55 -0500
This article is based on our relationship with our family, friends and loved ones. It exposes the individual to the right approach to life on how to be helpful to the needy such that we in return will be get help when the need arises.we need each other to survive.
Relationships: Why Do Some Women Lose Respect When A Man Expresses His Emotions?
Mon, 26 Feb 2018 07:09:40 -0600
In recent years, a lot has been said about how important it is for men to open up about how they feel and to embrace their inherent vulnerability. It could be said that it is a good thing that this has been taking place.
8 Tips to Help You Develop Positive Relationships
Tue, 12 Jun 2018 09:24:34 -0500
We all go through a lot of experiences during our lives. If you want to feel happier, healthier and more satisfied, you need to develop positive relationships with your loved ones. So, if you are struggling with this effort, we have given a few tips in this article that may help you achieve your goal.
Will I Ever Be Forgiven?
Mon, 26 Mar 2018 07:08:40 -0500
Have you ever had a time when you felt you had transgressed a significant relationship so much you felt you may not ever be forgiven? I'm sure you relate. There have been possibly a dozen or more times like that in my life.
The Power in Naming the Game to Take Its Power Away
Sat, 21 Jul 2018 10:28:05 -0500
One of the healthiest devices known in the field of counselling is the concept of naming what is going on in the room. As I was reminded recently, one way of looking at this is to imagine each phenomenon as the game. There is incredible value in naming a game.
That Relationship You Need a Miracle for
Sun, 08 Jul 2018 08:54:32 -0500
We've all been in this place. And yet, another grief falls upon us. There is a relationship that shatters us in the process of its shattering. Whether the relationship is intact or not is immaterial. There is a grief in both aspects of relationship: in absence especially, but also in presence. Ask the spouse of the one with dementia. What was so precious is gone, forever. Sometimes presence resembles absence in the cruellest of ways.
The Pencil Man
Mon, 19 Feb 2018 14:44:31 -0600
This article addresses that fact that, although adversity and difficulty can cause a strain on an individual, the need to maintain dignity remains so important. It's a thought we should visit often, and share with our children and grandchildren.
Responsibility and Control in Relationship
Sat, 21 Jul 2018 10:28:43 -0500
There is one key determinant in gauging mental, emotional, and spiritual health. To what extent does a person have the capability to take their responsibility versus their propensity to control others.
Instant Healing Of Your Ego Wounded Self? It Doesn't Exist
Tue, 03 Apr 2018 07:24:29 -0500
Do you think you should be farther along in your healing than you are? Do you get discouraged when dealing with the same issues over and over? You're not alone!
Very Last Resort Relationship Advice
Thu, 15 Feb 2018 09:02:56 -0600
"The best relationship advice I can give you is make sure you're the crazy one." If you think I wouldn't be the first person you'd go to for relationship advice let me set one thing straight- you're right. But, you are here for my relationship advice so that must mean that I'm not the first person that you've gone to. So I'm going to start with the number one rule in a relationship.
Relationships: Do Some Women's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Dependent On Men?
Thu, 22 Feb 2018 07:03:01 -0600
When a woman is an individual, she will be able to pay attention to her own needs and feelings. Not only this, she will have good boundaries, meaning that she will generally have a strong sense of herself.
Loyalty Makes You Family
Wed, 14 Mar 2018 11:58:25 -0500
It hardly comes as a surprise that blood makes you related but loyalty makes you family. Growing up, I always saw all of my relatives tear each other apart or taking sides instead of sticking together. And I am sure many of you can relate to this. So, I realized a long time ago I had to build my own circle.
Loving People Well With Boundaries
Mon, 02 Apr 2018 11:18:34 -0500
I wasn't in paid ministry very long - first day, in fact - before my then senior pastor gave me a salient lesson on boundaries. It would be a lesson I was destined to learn the hard way.
Who Are the Reptilians?
Wed, 21 Feb 2018 14:55:09 -0600
There has been jumbled up concepts in the origin of Man, whether they are from outer space, or are parts of here. Even some go as far as saying they are from the constellation Pleiades, They call themselves pleiadians. Ans some go as far as indicating that the shadow government is populated by what they call reptilians-reptiles in human form.
Responsibility Makes and Breaks Relationships
Mon, 16 Jul 2018 07:27:42 -0500
The blessing we receive in taking responsibility is we take control of everything we can control, and we surrender control for everything that is beyond our control. And that is wisdom.
Listen to Someone and You Empower Them
Sat, 05 May 2018 16:35:11 -0500
There are some situations that beg us to listen and to respond in affirmation. These are particularly the kinds of circumstances where people with us are vulnerable.
You Sound Stupid When You Say That
Sun, 24 Jun 2018 11:01:10 -0500
Earlier on I was listening to a conversation where one person was having a go at someone else. These were not just two strangers, though; they were two people who knew each other.
Relationships: Why Do Some People Lose Interest When Another Person Treats Them Well?
Sat, 09 Jun 2018 15:21:33 -0500
If someone had the desire to be in a relationship, they might think about what they can do to find the right person. This could then be a time when they will join at least one dating app and/or they might start going out a few times a week.
Bereavement - What to Say?
Tue, 24 Apr 2018 14:34:21 -0500
Sudden bereavement creates a sense of numbness and shock. Later followed by intense negative feelings. We may feel uncomfortable not knowing what to say to a friend going through bereavement. Here are 6 tips that might find useful.
Relationships: How Can A Woman Tell If A Man Is Unavailable?
Fri, 17 Aug 2018 11:21:54 -0500
Although a woman may find that it is relatively easy for her to attract a man, what she may also find is that she is unable to find a man who actually wants a relationship. This may mean that she has been with a number of men who were emotionally unavailable.
Time for Paws
Mon, 05 Feb 2018 20:38:28 -0600
Have you ever noticed that some people treat their animals better than they treat other people? They beam when Spot enters the room and spend time greeting and cuddling him. The cat eats gourmet food out of Royal Dolton and crystal.
Relationships: Can Someone End Up With The Wrong Person If They Feel Low?
Sun, 21 Jan 2018 09:11:33 -0600
If one was to find themselves in a position where they feel down, they could feel the need to get in a relationship. They could believe that being with someone else will make their life better, thereby allowing them to feel good about.
Relationships: Why Do Some Women Always Attract Men Who Are Aloof?
Fri, 17 Aug 2018 10:42:16 -0500
When a woman has the tendency to end up with men who are unavailable, it is naturally going to have a negative effect on her wellbeing. Her desire to be with a man who is available is not going to be met, so it is to be expected that this won't be something that she can simply overlook.
Do You Tolerate Others' Uncaring and Disrespectful Behavior?
Mon, 18 Jun 2018 21:02:12 -0500
I grew up with two parents who constantly lacked caring for my feelings and frequently treated me with deep disrespect. Looking back, I know that neither of them had any idea of how to compassionately manage their own feelings, so they were completely incapable of being compassionate with mine. In fact, they seemed to lack the ability to feel and show compassion.
Relationships: Do Some Women's Childhood's Set Them Up To Attract Submissive Men?
Wed, 07 Feb 2018 07:07:22 -0600
There are some women who attract men who are in touch with their masculine strength, while there are others who don't. As a result of this, their experiences with the opposite sex are going to be very different.
Could Stress Be Distressing Your Relationships?
Sat, 28 Jul 2018 18:45:17 -0500
So many people I encounter are under the direct burden of stress. Levels of general anxiety in the population today are as high as at any other time in the history of the world. And yet, as you read this you might be like much of the world, living in comparative luxury compared to others who cannot read this, and there are those historically who have faced much harder realities than we do today, yet possibly experienced less general anxiety. These below are just four items on what would be a long list.
Playing With Your Partner in Silly Ways
Thu, 01 Mar 2018 06:57:43 -0600
In order to ignite or get the spark of your ongoing relationship, you need to play with each other and be silly for a few minutes during the day. This strengthens the bond and helps you feel better about yourself and each other. So how do you play? Look inside for tips.
Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Take Other People's Pain Away?
Fri, 17 Aug 2018 11:13:47 -0500
Pain is something that everyone on the planet experiences and, therefore, it is one of the things that connect human beings. However, although pain is something that can't be avoided, it doesn't mean that everyone is willing to accept this.
Don't Put Women On A Pedestal
Thu, 05 Jul 2018 07:07:35 -0500
While I was out the other day I saw a woman who was wearing a fair amount of makeup, and seeing this woman had quite a big effect on me. But, even though part of me was responding to what I had seen, another part of me thought about how strange this all was.
How the Best Advice I Ever Got Hurt Before Its Truth Hit Home
Sat, 28 Jul 2018 18:44:42 -0500
It seemed so simple, but I was gobsmacked by the profoundness of what was said. There, as I lay there, my wife scooped in my arms, in bed to sleep, I was wide awake with awe, at the advice I had five minutes earlier heard my wife utter to me.
Swings, Roundabouts and Those Competitive Comparisons
Sun, 04 Feb 2018 08:04:04 -0600
MANY times, I have counselled people in the phenomenon of the level playing field that life invariably is, generally. Some get off to a flying start in their twenties, succeeding at everything they do, whilst others seem to fall very far behind the eight ball. Some of us ride the swings, others of us ride the roundabouts.
Empowering and Enabling Functional Forgiveness
Mon, 04 Jun 2018 11:25:26 -0500
Imagine fellow human beings not being the real enemy, but the force of disconnection they avow; forgiveness is a power we employ when it functions for us to reconnect us to what is good. Unforgiveness is a force of disconnection.
The Only Way to Never Is to Never Say Never
Tue, 22 May 2018 15:02:12 -0500
If we say we'll never have an affair, that's fine, but we had better imagine how easily such things happen if we're not continually guarding our hearts. Too easily do we all rest in the fact that our ideals say we would never, without realising we're fallible beings prone to being wanted and needed. None of us are too far away from falling in love with something or someone totally inappropriate. The only way to never is to never say never.
Relationships: Can Smartphones Destroy Relationships?
Thu, 19 Jul 2018 10:48:15 -0500
In the same way that it is easy for someone not embrace each day of the week due to being completely absorbed in what will happen at the weekend, it is also just as easy for them to ignore the people in their life due to being completely absorbed in their Smartphone. In each of these cases, the present moment won't be fully embraced.
Dating: Should Someone Message Another Person If They Go Silent?
Sun, 04 Feb 2018 08:04:22 -0600
Nowadays, there are so many ways for people to find someone to be with, which is a far cry from how it used to be. In the past, one would have had to physically meet another person in order to be able to take the next step, but this is not longer necessary.
The Mind's Fight for Acceptance, the Heart's Battle for Love
Fri, 16 Mar 2018 07:19:41 -0500
When I'm vulnerable my psychology sits atop a knife's edge; I either progress to repentance or topple into resentment. And it's people who just happen to benefit or pay.
Relationships: Is Our Life Defined By The Inner Models That Other People Have Of Us?
Thu, 15 Mar 2018 07:12:02 -0500
When one meets someone for the first time, they might not know anything about them. However, once they have spent a little while in their company, they will start to construct an inner model of what they are like.
Relationships: Why Would Someone Act Really Interested?
Mon, 22 Jan 2018 07:11:25 -0600
There could be moments in one's life when they come into contact with people who don't act all that interested, whilst there could be others moments when this is not the case. Here, another person could act as though one is the most important person on the planet.
The Return of the Prodigal Son
Fri, 29 Jun 2018 07:38:34 -0500
The parable of the prodigal Son, sometimes called the Lost Son is a story about how the father had two sons and the younger son demanded his share of the inheritance before it was due. After he received he inheritance the younger son set off for a faraway land where he squandered his inheritance.
Wishing and Hoping
Sun, 06 May 2018 08:47:26 -0500
Have you ever had someone tell you that they weren't interested in having a relationship with you? That can be a devastating thing to hear. Everyone wants to be loved and cared for.
Meet the Malevolent Brothers, 'Abuse' and 'Manipulation'
Mon, 25 Jun 2018 11:52:05 -0500
Suddenly it dawned on me, there is a possible dynamic on the slippery slope, either side of making peace. The attack phase involves abuse. The escape phase involves manipulation.
They Retain Your Trust, As You Retain Their Respect
Sun, 21 Jan 2018 09:07:17 -0600
CONDITIONAL love is the same as conditional respect. In response to safe boundaries some people respond by switching off their respect. Some people think that love and respect are dependent on how they feel. But effective relationships depend on love and respect if trust is to flow.
The Prodigal Son and His Brother
Sat, 21 Jul 2018 10:32:42 -0500
The Prodigal Son is a parable told by Jesus about the younger son who demanded his inheritance from father and then once he got it went to a faraway land where he squandered his inheritance. This article about his older brother who continued to work for his father during the time his little brother was away.
Makeup And The False-Self
Thu, 24 May 2018 11:17:16 -0500
The other day I saw a picture of a woman's face on social media and this picture had received a fair amount 'likes'. That wasn't it though, as she had received a number of positive comments.
Controlling Behaviour: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Controlling?
Tue, 06 Feb 2018 14:38:37 -0600
For some people, it is a case of either controlling others or being controlled; there is no middle ground. Even so, this doesn't mean that this is something that goes through their mind.
You Don't Need Anyone To Love You
Thu, 05 Jul 2018 07:08:55 -0500
It's not uncommon for someone to say that they want someone to love them, and this is what will motivate them to look for another person to be with. They might believe that everything will be fine after they have found someone like this.
We, My Friends, Are Walking Mirrors
Wed, 21 Feb 2018 07:01:09 -0600
HAVE you ever noticed that, no matter how confident you are, eye contact is harder with a person who avoids eye contact? Or, when someone gives you intentional eye contact their attention provokes your own attention? Whilst we tend not to notice it, we do tend to mirror each other.
When a Relationship Is Not What We Hope
Sat, 21 Jul 2018 10:27:48 -0500
There are times in all our lives when there is a relationship that doesn't quite meet our hopes. There is a particular kind of relationship that continues to elude us with a loved one or a friendship that has experienced fracture.
Your "Relationship Quotient" (RQ): Share Your Feelings
Thu, 08 Feb 2018 08:10:02 -0600
Here is an exercise married couples can do to grow closer together. In "Share Your Feelings," couples are asked to disclose something on their hearts and minds that they might not have shared with their partner. This article tells you how to do that and why you should do that.
What You See Is Never The Whole Person
Wed, 27 Jun 2018 08:19:38 -0500
No human being can fully perceive another one because they didn't walk their exact path or shared the same experiences. Our perception of others is always distorted by our own knowledge and understanding of reality.
Do Some People Need To Experience A Few Bad Relationships Before They Can Appreciate A Good One?
Fri, 17 Aug 2018 09:47:36 -0500
There are some people who will feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone who is not abusive, while there will be others who won't. Therefore, if someone who can relate to the former was to end up with someone who is abusive, they would probably soon walk away.
Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Trapped Around Others?
Sun, 04 Mar 2018 17:38:33 -0600
While reaching out to others and experiencing intimacy is normal for some people, there are others who experience life in a very different way. When someone can reach out to others and experience intimacy, they could be in a fulfilling relationship.
Critical Thinking: Does A Woman Need To Seek Professional Help If She Believes That All Men Are Bad?
Thu, 25 Jan 2018 07:05:25 -0600
In today's world, it appears to be perfectly acceptable for a woman in the public eye to bash men. She can say all kinds of things that will basically amount to men being less-than human and worthless, and absolutely nothing will be done.
When Experience Gets in the Way of Empathy
Sun, 15 Apr 2018 10:22:26 -0500
The conversation went a little like this: 'Others (i.e. you) don't really know what this is about' to which I said, 'Yes, but I've been through the same sort of season in the past.' There was tacit agreement. The person had to agree. They knew my story, and they knew I understood. But their point was, 'But you're not there now.'
Heeding the Walking-Away Moment
Fri, 17 Aug 2018 09:53:24 -0500
There are at least two opportunities to walk away with wisdom: To walk away from something permanently that has lasted for too long, and, to walk away from something temporarily where space is required. Knowing how and when to make these two decisions requires wisdom.
We Are Here for You
Tue, 10 Apr 2018 11:22:57 -0500
It wouldn't be an unusual scenario in any of our lives to have a loved one or dear friend who needs to know, 'we are here for you.' There are people all over the planet who feel that way right now.
Wait and Let God Avenge For You Like Only God Can
Sun, 22 Apr 2018 16:37:31 -0500
Forgiveness is the directive of the Lord, even as we receive the Lord's forgiveness. But there is a reckoning to be had for all unrepentant perpetrators. As all deserve mercy if one receives mercy, such mercy is only available to those who do justice.
Labels Prevent Us From Seeing Human Beings
Wed, 27 Jun 2018 08:22:57 -0500
Labels prevent us from seeing the human being behind them. Once a person is labelled, we immediately see that person through the label. The label might affect our complete vision of that human being or only part of it but only by looking behind the label will we be able to truly see the person as he or she truly is.
Okay, So How Am I to Challenge Someone Who Hates Being Criticised?
Wed, 04 Apr 2018 11:48:05 -0500
For someone who hates being criticised, God had a sense of humour when a while back someone asked me as pastor the above question. I've had to learn a lot about accepting criticism over the years, especially the last several. Just when I've thought 'I'm good at this' God has brought a new lesson front-and-centre to show me just how insecure I can be. No matter how unfair criticism is, I've had to learn there's always some truth in there to be gleaned. So, with that background I'm taking the role of suggesting ways to approach someone like me.
He Wanted To Kill Himself After His Partner Left Him
Mon, 23 Apr 2018 07:06:30 -0500
A little while ago I spoke to someone whose son had gone through a break up, and this was something that had a big impact on him. She didn't say how long he had been with her for, but she did go into what he went though.
What I'm Thinking As They Drive Off in the Distance
Fri, 23 Mar 2018 11:26:33 -0500
Having said our goodbyes, the car reversed out of the driveway, last waves were had, forward the wheels rolled down the road, before turning the corner and going out of view. The loaned reality of sorrow struck once more. It won't always be like this.