Writing a thank you card to people is something that most people will not do or just leave it up to someone that is willing to do it. But there are others out there that is willing to do it and they even hand write something for all the people that give them something or just came out of care for that person. There are many different ways and reasons one would sent a thank you card. Most people would think that thank you cards are only sent for wedding gifts and so on. But you could send thank you cards for birthdays, graduation,weddings, engagement parties etc.
There is no limit to sending out thank you cards to people that came for something at your house or where ever. Write a thank you note to the whole group, don't send a card. Since they went to the trouble to chip in for a gift, writing short but sincere note is the way to go. Call your attorney and cut them out of the Will.
Kidding! There is nothing that you can do other than speak to your brother or sister about the situation. "X, you know that I love Janie and Lisa, but it bothers me that they never acknowledge the gifts that I send. My time and resources are not infinite and I put a lot of effort into remembering the girls on their birthdays and on holidays. It hurts me very much that they don't think enough of me to say 'thank you'.
They are fine young ladies and I know how hard you work at raising them properly. Puts the ball in your sibling's court without being too dramatic or accusatory. You start and end with the positives (reword to suit) and avoid putting them on the defensive or escalating the argument. No, if you thank someone at the time they give you the gift, you do not have to send a thank you note.
However, if the person when to a lot of effort (made you a quilt, found some rare thing you collected.) it is a very nice thing to let them know how much it meant to you with a little note. We all like personal mail and we all get very little of it. So five minutes of your time and a 37 cent stamp can really add joy to the giver's day. Etiquette books say that a bride has two weeks from the time she returns from the honeymoon to send out her thank you notes. Well, I am pleased to announce that I am meeting that deadline as Sam and I just returned yesterday from our THREE YEAR honeymoon in Papua, New Guinea! All right, none of that was true, but I have no other excuse for my failure to thank you for the lovely silver candle sticks you so graciously gave us as a wedding gift.
Sam and I use them often and never fail to appreciate how they make even the simplest meals seem more elegant. We are grateful for your continued love and friendship as well as the present! Make up anything that you like with friends and family who have a sense of humor. Anyone who you think wouldn't get or appreciate the light hearted attempt to cover your mistake please just write a straightforward note. She has is wrong.People have up to a year to SEND a wedding present. After a year the couple is no longer "newly wed".
She needs to get those thank you notes out within two weeks. Please point out to her that these people were not obligated to give her anything. They spent their limited time and hard earned money. Writing a brief note expressing gratitude is not a job she should begrudge.
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